Friends and Patience
I was suppose to write this last Monday as a result of my reflections while doing my favorite de-stressing activity: my laundry.
This is about my recent meet up and conversation with a college friend.
Time to Catch Up
The last time we’ve met, he was pursuing his application for the Erasmus Scholarship which for some reasons, he didn’t get to pursue since he got wait-listed. I can still remember how he tried to handle his personal disappointment about it, and how we all tried to comfort him over the group chat that maybe it’s not yet the right time for him to go abroad and study. Maybe next year, it will be different.
He tried to rationalize and justify things by saying that maybe he wasn’t “yet” allowed to go out of the country to pursue higher studies because he still supports his siblings’ college education, wait until they get to pass board exams, get hired and be permanently employed. In the family of 8 kids, I am not sure if he is the first-born, but he seem to be the first one to graduate in college, in full scholarship and now supporting his entire family.
Now, we meet again and he is in another state of dilemma. I really don’t mind being called by friends on this kind of days. As long as it’s not frequent. I knew he needs to talk and rationalize things and just have another conversation.
As for me, I haven’t really been going out, too attached with my bed on weekends, trying to avoid metropolitan pollution, heavy road traffic and spending.. Hehe…
For some, it is a happy journey while for others, it’s bumpy and as kind of unbelievable. But still, they manage to share their life stories through not-so-frequent group chats and personal messages.
“Ayoko kasi ng nape-pressure. Gusto ko yung basta darating yung opportunity na tatanggapin ko ng walang doubts.” – that’s what he said and what I would always remember.
Asked what he plans to do for the next two years as the Senior High will be fully-implemented, the final leg for the K-to-12 Education Implementation, he said he will now pursue his PhD studies. Finally, this time, he has lesser worries in terms of family duties since his brother just landed a permanent job as a public school teacher near their community in Castilla, Sorsogon. He said, it’s now time for his siblings to support him on his studies.
We shared that feeling of gladness of being able to see the siblings finally graduate in college. That investing on others particularly family is never a bad investment.
He also had started paying for a piece of land and eventually, he will be putting up his own house.
We jokingly call him “Halaman” as he never seem to be linked with anybody up until today, or someone we are just not aware of.
He waited and life unfolded its wealth to him accordingly. He is patient.
Patience—something I am starting to embrace as well.
Because God’s time maybe different from what I have on my timetable and His time is the best and perfect time for all.